4.30.2013

the other mothers

if you are a mother please read it. if you aren't a mother read it anyway. :)
 
(its a little lengthy but worth it)
 
i am so guilty of comparing myself to other mothers.
 
i should be taking them more places. i should sign them up for special activities. i should dress them up more. i should have their hair perfect every time we go anywhere. i should dress like a real mom. i should be back to my pre baby weight already. i wish i could look like "so and so".  why can't i live like them?  i'm never going to be good at that. i wish i could be crafty, good moms are crafty. why can't i teach my kids to do what that kid does? why can't they act like their kids?
 
 
Marvin J. Ashton said, “There is a natural, probably a mortal tendency to compare ourselves with others. Unfortunately, when we make these comparisons, we tend to compare our weakest attributes with someone else’s strongest. Obviously these kinds of comparisons are destructive and only reinforce the fear that somehow we don’t measure up.”
 
so unbelievably true. i guess what i'm trying to say is. i'm not a perfect mom, but i'm a good one for my kids.
 
i'm hoping that i can remember this and stop try to be something that i'm not. which is okay.
 
which reminds me....
"I'm bad, and that's good. I will never be good, and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me." the lessons you can learn from Disney movies is amazing. thank you wreck it ralph for teaching me that. :)
 
i hope that as mothers we can be whatever mother we want to be with out feeling inadequate or pressure to be something we aren't. we are the best mother for our children.
 
 



3 comments:

  1. Amen Erica. I used to feel inadequate until I started talking to other moms more openly about our struggles and shortcomings. I realized that we are kind of all in the same boat.

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  2. Everyone knows this game whether they are a mom or not. You are your kids best shot at life, heaven, and everything else we encounter- that's why they set ant to you!

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  3. Great Post!

    I hope all is well with you...

    And, for the record, your children are beautiful, and seem so filled with happiness... It means you are doing the right thing.

    Anyone else who says any different, is just jealous.

    :)

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